Jumping to Conclusions

There is a broad canyon of information between knowing actions and knowing motivation. Perhaps that’s why we call hasty judgments “jumping to conclusions.”

There is a world of difference between the statement “You did this to me.” and “You did this to me because ___________.” The former is a statement about someone’s action. The latter is a statement about one’s motives. Action is easier to perceive than motivation. Actions are external. Motives reside in the heart and mind.

The only way to rightly perceive a motive is to communicate—to ask questions, to clarify, to listen, to understand. But that takes work and time.

And so, we usually jump to conclusions. It’s easier to take a flying leap across the significant span between observed-action to concrete-motivation. Of course, it often fails with a messy and fatal SPLAT! on the canyon floor.

More challenging is the task of bridge-building. The work of careful, patient, good-faith communication necessitates setting aside our pride. We must lay aside our certainty about our initial feeling, sense, and suspicion. This entails caring more about what is actually true of our neighbor than what we want to be true. In short, it requires love. And love usually involves dying to ourselves to give life to a relationship.

Each approach involves death. But only one promises the possibility of a life-giving relationship.


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esv new testament scripture journal setThinking about reading through the Bible in 2020? Journaling through the Scripture is a great way to increase your comprehension, application, and prayer. Using the ESV New Testament Scripture Journals is a great way to do this.

I reviewed the journals and some of their uses this fall (here). But now Crossway has released a hardcover edition. This is a big improvement on the previous set, allowing you to throw a journal in your bag without fear of tearing up the cover.

Thanks to the generosity of Crossway, I have a full set to giveaway. You may enter here or through the form below.

A “Worthy” Giveaway of My New Book

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Ummm…so, yeah…I guess I forgot to mention on my own website that I have a forthcoming book. Sorry about that. It’s co-written with my friend Elyse Fitzpatrick and called Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women. It will release to the world on February 4, 2020.

You can read the endorsements and find links to pre-order it on our fancy-schmancy new website.

So about those free books… To celebrate the new website, we’re giving away a free copy to five friends who help us share it!

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